教你5招打敗距離，異地戀也可以走下去
No.1 Video Chat Regularly
第一招：經(jīng)常視頻聊天
Whether you use Face Time, iChat, Google Chat, or Skype, being able to see each other while you talk about your annoying coworker or the hilarious thing your buddy did at the bar adds another layer of communication that helps you stay close. Video chatting is an especially good idea when you’re arguing; your normal tension-dissolving tactics don’t translate as well over the phone.
不管你是使用蘋果、谷歌還是skype，什么樣的視頻聊天工具都好，聊天時(shí)一定要能看到對(duì)方。這樣能夠帶來不同感覺的效果，幫助你們維系彼此間的親密感。尤其是當(dāng)你在抱怨惹人討厭的同事，或是分享朋友在酒吧里做過的一些非常滑稽的事情的時(shí)候。而當(dāng)你們爭(zhēng)論時(shí)，視頻聊天更是一個(gè)非常好的解決問題的方式; 電話聊天無法很好地傳達(dá)意思和幫助消除緊張感。
No.2 Don't Be Jealous Of Her Guy Friends
第二招：不要嫉妒她的異性朋友
One of the few upsides to being in a long-distance relationship is that you’re always free to hang out with friends. Your job as the boyfriend is to make sure she knows you’re cool with that -- even if her plans involve dudes you don’t know. Trust me, it’ll work to your advantage in the long-run: If you get defensive whenever she wants to spend time with a guy, she’ll assume it’s because you’re not being faithful when you’re around other women. But if you’re cool with it, you automatically seem more trustworthy, preventing any major jealousy issues before they start.
遠(yuǎn)距離異地戀情其實(shí)也有好處， 那就是可以很自由地與自己的朋友聚在一起。作為她的男友，你要做的就是確保讓她知道，你對(duì)這一點(diǎn)很放心。就算她計(jì)劃與一些你不認(rèn)識(shí)的男生一起出門玩，你也給予足夠的信任。相信我，從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)來看這對(duì)你們的關(guān)系是非常有利的：如果每次她說要跟異性朋友一起你就很有防備心，那久而久之她就會(huì)懷疑，你是不是因?yàn)槟愫推渌砸黄鸬臅r(shí)候有做過對(duì)不起她的事情。但如果你很冷靜，那你也會(huì)得到對(duì)方更多的信任，這些能夠消除未來任何重大的猜疑與嫉妒。
No.3 Do Something Together While You're Apart
第三招：異地的時(shí)候也可以一起做些事
You don’t have to be in the same zip code to have fun together. Every Sunday night at 11, my boyfriend and I have a standing date to talk about the latest episode of Breaking Bad. Your “thing” doesn’t have to be a TV series you’re addicted to -- maybe it’s watching a weekly movie together, or playing Words with Friends -- but make sure you have something to talk about that doesn’t involve the words “I miss you.” It’ll make your phone calls a lot more pleasant.
誰說非要在一塊兒才能一起玩?每周六晚11點(diǎn)，我和男朋友會(huì)有一次固定的約會(huì)：一起聊聊美劇《絕命毒師》的最新劇情。當(dāng)然你們的話題不一定非得是你們都愛的電視劇，可以是在網(wǎng)上一起觀看每周影院，或者是大家一起玩填字游戲，要知道除了“我想你”這些甜言蜜語外，你們有其他的事情可以聊，這些事情會(huì)讓你們的電話聊天更愉快。
No.4 Plan At Least One Visit In Advance
第四招：至少提前安排一次會(huì)面
Maybe you’re a spontaneous kind of guy. Don’t be when you’re booking travel. Things go much more smoothly if you have a trip or two in the books ahead of time. Your wallet will thank you -- and so will your girlfriend. Saying goodbye at the end of a visit is a lot easier when you already have another to look forward to.
也許你是一個(gè)很隨意的人，但在計(jì)劃旅行的時(shí)候就千萬要謹(jǐn)慎啦。如果你能提前安排一到兩次旅行的話，事情會(huì)順利得多。提前計(jì)劃會(huì)幫你省不少錢，你女朋友也會(huì)覺得這樣很貼心。如果你們已經(jīng)計(jì)劃好令人期待的下一次會(huì)面時(shí)，那么在這段旅途結(jié)束時(shí)說再見就會(huì)容易得多了。
No.5 Say What's On Your Mind
第五招：說出你心中的想法
Girlfriends can tell when something’s bothering you. And when you don’t explain what it is -- no matter how dumb you might think it sounds -- we assume we’re the something that’s bringing you down. A girlfriend who’s worried that you might dump her isn’t a great person to be in a relationship with. So just tell her that you missed the game-winning shot at your pickup basketball game already and put it behind you.
女朋友通常都能感覺到有事情在困擾著你，如果你不去解釋，我們就會(huì)以為是我們讓你感到厭煩，所以就算你覺得很傻你也還是要解釋。作為女朋友會(huì)猜疑，擔(dān)心你是不是要跟她分手。所以你要直接告訴她，你是因?yàn)樵谥暗幕@球賽錯(cuò)失了制勝球才心情煩悶。
No.1 Video Chat Regularly
第一招：經(jīng)常視頻聊天
Whether you use Face Time, iChat, Google Chat, or Skype, being able to see each other while you talk about your annoying coworker or the hilarious thing your buddy did at the bar adds another layer of communication that helps you stay close. Video chatting is an especially good idea when you’re arguing; your normal tension-dissolving tactics don’t translate as well over the phone.
不管你是使用蘋果、谷歌還是skype，什么樣的視頻聊天工具都好，聊天時(shí)一定要能看到對(duì)方。這樣能夠帶來不同感覺的效果，幫助你們維系彼此間的親密感。尤其是當(dāng)你在抱怨惹人討厭的同事，或是分享朋友在酒吧里做過的一些非常滑稽的事情的時(shí)候。而當(dāng)你們爭(zhēng)論時(shí)，視頻聊天更是一個(gè)非常好的解決問題的方式; 電話聊天無法很好地傳達(dá)意思和幫助消除緊張感。
No.2 Don't Be Jealous Of Her Guy Friends
第二招：不要嫉妒她的異性朋友
One of the few upsides to being in a long-distance relationship is that you’re always free to hang out with friends. Your job as the boyfriend is to make sure she knows you’re cool with that -- even if her plans involve dudes you don’t know. Trust me, it’ll work to your advantage in the long-run: If you get defensive whenever she wants to spend time with a guy, she’ll assume it’s because you’re not being faithful when you’re around other women. But if you’re cool with it, you automatically seem more trustworthy, preventing any major jealousy issues before they start.
遠(yuǎn)距離異地戀情其實(shí)也有好處， 那就是可以很自由地與自己的朋友聚在一起。作為她的男友，你要做的就是確保讓她知道，你對(duì)這一點(diǎn)很放心。就算她計(jì)劃與一些你不認(rèn)識(shí)的男生一起出門玩，你也給予足夠的信任。相信我，從長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)來看這對(duì)你們的關(guān)系是非常有利的：如果每次她說要跟異性朋友一起你就很有防備心，那久而久之她就會(huì)懷疑，你是不是因?yàn)槟愫推渌砸黄鸬臅r(shí)候有做過對(duì)不起她的事情。但如果你很冷靜，那你也會(huì)得到對(duì)方更多的信任，這些能夠消除未來任何重大的猜疑與嫉妒。
No.3 Do Something Together While You're Apart
第三招：異地的時(shí)候也可以一起做些事
You don’t have to be in the same zip code to have fun together. Every Sunday night at 11, my boyfriend and I have a standing date to talk about the latest episode of Breaking Bad. Your “thing” doesn’t have to be a TV series you’re addicted to -- maybe it’s watching a weekly movie together, or playing Words with Friends -- but make sure you have something to talk about that doesn’t involve the words “I miss you.” It’ll make your phone calls a lot more pleasant.
誰說非要在一塊兒才能一起玩?每周六晚11點(diǎn)，我和男朋友會(huì)有一次固定的約會(huì)：一起聊聊美劇《絕命毒師》的最新劇情。當(dāng)然你們的話題不一定非得是你們都愛的電視劇，可以是在網(wǎng)上一起觀看每周影院，或者是大家一起玩填字游戲，要知道除了“我想你”這些甜言蜜語外，你們有其他的事情可以聊，這些事情會(huì)讓你們的電話聊天更愉快。
No.4 Plan At Least One Visit In Advance
第四招：至少提前安排一次會(huì)面
Maybe you’re a spontaneous kind of guy. Don’t be when you’re booking travel. Things go much more smoothly if you have a trip or two in the books ahead of time. Your wallet will thank you -- and so will your girlfriend. Saying goodbye at the end of a visit is a lot easier when you already have another to look forward to.
也許你是一個(gè)很隨意的人，但在計(jì)劃旅行的時(shí)候就千萬要謹(jǐn)慎啦。如果你能提前安排一到兩次旅行的話，事情會(huì)順利得多。提前計(jì)劃會(huì)幫你省不少錢，你女朋友也會(huì)覺得這樣很貼心。如果你們已經(jīng)計(jì)劃好令人期待的下一次會(huì)面時(shí)，那么在這段旅途結(jié)束時(shí)說再見就會(huì)容易得多了。
No.5 Say What's On Your Mind
第五招：說出你心中的想法
Girlfriends can tell when something’s bothering you. And when you don’t explain what it is -- no matter how dumb you might think it sounds -- we assume we’re the something that’s bringing you down. A girlfriend who’s worried that you might dump her isn’t a great person to be in a relationship with. So just tell her that you missed the game-winning shot at your pickup basketball game already and put it behind you.
女朋友通常都能感覺到有事情在困擾著你，如果你不去解釋，我們就會(huì)以為是我們讓你感到厭煩，所以就算你覺得很傻你也還是要解釋。作為女朋友會(huì)猜疑，擔(dān)心你是不是要跟她分手。所以你要直接告訴她，你是因?yàn)樵谥暗幕@球賽錯(cuò)失了制勝球才心情煩悶。
